Are You Relationship Ready?
Are you Relationship Ready? While pre-screening new potential clients one of the first things I do is check to see if their timing is really right. Many times I find out they are not quite there yet! Let’s face it we all want love but some people think it is a magic pill that will solve all our problems. Not so, especially if we are still harbouring unresolved anger. I could put the most amazing person in front of a angry, bitter or disillusioned person and the end result would be disastrous. The last thing you want to do is add more baggage to that pile and the new person would also end up discouraged and the cycle continues. So let’s look at what the term “being ready” entails or more importantly what it doesn’t.
Are still angry at your ex? If so, you are not ready for love yet. Why are you still angry? Unresolved issues, do you still care in some obscure way? If you don’t trust the opposite sex, why not? Do you know for sure all the men or women in the world are liars or cheats? Have your dated them all? Please remember not all men or women are the same, thank god. 🙂 If someone treated you badly, remember it was that man or woman, not all men or women. Are you worried that potential partners will not like you, why not? Do you believe you are an amazing catch and anyone should be happy to have you in their lives…… if not, why? Sometimes, when we vent about others we are actually looking for someone else to blame for our own unhappiness. YOU ARE RESPONSIBLE FOR YOUR OWN HAPPINESS! If you ever want to have a happy healthy relationship you have to start with the person in the mirror, you cannot be responsible for everyone else’s behaviour, but you are solely responsible for yourself.
What are you looking for in another person, make a wish list for the characteristics you want in a partner, does it describe what you bring to the table? If you expect your partner to be fit and healthy emotionally and physically, are you? I constantly hear “But I don’t look my age”, sorry but everyone tells me exactly the same thing (male and female). 🙂 The majority of Men over 35, tend to want to date younger women, why? What if a woman has everything you bring to the table and looked the same age as you? What’s the real reason? Seriously think about it and be honest with yourself. The male ego can be a dangerous thing. Women, just in case you haven’t noticed not all men are over 6′ and it is not a guarantee to finding a good man. The more open minded you are the better chance of finding a great match!
Do everyone a favour and make sure you are really honest about where you are, what you are looking for, what you need to make you happy and that you are happy with yourself before you go out looking for your potential true love (men and women) . Chances are if you have just come out of a relationship, you are not ready. So all of you who rebound the very next week into someone else arms thinking that it will take away the pain, think again. It may do more harm than good, to you and the next victim that crosses your path. No one wants to carry your baggage or be painted by the same brush.
Could you picture yourself in a marriage or living with someone within the next year or so? If not, why not? Timing is such a big issue and if the timing is off for either of you, it will not work. I have had timing bite me in the ass, more times than not, and I can tell you it hurts! 🙂 When you are truly comfortable in your own skin, happy and positive on your own and you know for a fact you are a great catch for the right person, then you are truly ready. Don`t forget to make sure your potential partner is also ready. The definition of insanity is doing the same thing over and over and expecting a different result each time. Albert Einstein
If you have any issues that you would like discussed here, please let me know. If I don’t have the answers I do have a couple of relationship therapists on-board I can ask. Thanks again for following, if you haven’t yet, you can find the Subscribe link on the front page of this post. Best of luck to you all.